The Blue Eyed Girl And The Walking T shirt

Other people’s paths are often easier to see than our own . We see such obvious posturing , such generic motions and their eventual outcomes . Painfully played out storyline, Woman finds man who flirts with her , flocks to his attention , he is so different from her husband . Poor taste in music, smokes cigarettes ,METHOL no less. No motivation or aspirations . The complete opposite of her husband . But, he flirts with her and she allows it and reciprocates, then goes home to her husband , nurturing the emotional affair for months . Slowly hiding their closeness, and then quickly straight up lying to protect it. But was it all so innocent ? If so then why were they sneaking around like high school lovers ? This man, who had recently been betrayed himself pursued a hurt married woman, luring her away from fidelity to her family . She left her husband, but for myriad of confusing unfocused reasons , none of which were her growing affections for another man, no, the relationship with him was a symptom of her long displeasure with the marriage . However months later. This man will not commit to her, why would he? She is married and high maintenance , going thru a divorce , and she’s ALREADY lavishing him with sex and attention . “Let’s just be friends” isn’t a noble claim, but an excuse to keep stringing her along . This man with no ambition who she has INFINITE patience for. Whom she gushes over in ways she never did for her husband . He will be content to have her when he is bored and lonely Or in need of emotional support, or sex. And she will give them to him regardless of commitment . She loves him , or at least the idea of who he could be . It’s so obvious to see others paths sometimes . Watching the generic play out it’s mundane outcome for the wide eyed girl and the man with no ambition . When a man doesn’t see a future with someone he may choose to remain lovers or be stuck figuring out how to end the romantic side of things . Sloth is not a virtue , it is a sin. Reading how she feels they will ALWAYS BE in each other’s lives and how his sloppy half assed best is good enough for now , makes me pause and think, where was this acceptance and patience for her husband ? The man she married and pledged an oath to grow old with . No, there is no redemption for him. “I tried” she shrugged , unaware of the irony of saying “I tried” while actively giving up. Setting fire to their lives like it was an infected blanket. Those around her advising caution and trying to point out the obvious . But SHE knows better than them all . In her mind she was queen and those who questioned her methods were expendable in her eyes . I was ALWAYS suspicious of her devotion , of the extent of her love . I would have nightmares of her cheating on me and laughing smugly as she left me , and THAT HAPPENED. When I would have such bad dreams she would comfort me “Were on the same team , remember ?” She would reassure me . “We will always be in each other’s lives , I love you.” Was any of that actually true? So much of what she said to me she now is re giving to this new man, this walking t shirt without a personality . I want to hate this man, for KNOWING better and still pursing a married woman, he who had recently been betrayed himself! Who KNOWS the pain he was helping to create . But I know my wife , I know it was SHE who led him on , lavished attention in his direction, attention that should have been given to her husband . Truth is I saw them hanging out together and did not feel threatened? THAT GUY? The one who my friends thought was a meth addict ? The dude with the double chin and goofy teeth ? The walking cardboard cut out of SOMEONE ELSE. But, I don’t hate him. I don’t even know him. I hope things work out for the blue eyed girl , and if the man with no ambition makes her happy than so be it . But something tells me he just doesn’t have the GUTS to tell her he sees NO future with her, doesn’t want to be with someone with kids and so much baggage and that they shouldn’t keep perpetuating something that SHE is clearly more invested in. But , no . He doesn’t . He will be content to lie in limbo , having sex with her and living in this fantasy world they have built where logic has no place . I hope I’m wrong, that he steps up and CLAIMS his prize . Or at least if I’m right I hope she sees it before she gets hurt . Either way , it would have been nice if she talked to her husband with such passion that she lavishes on the ambition-less man.